Subject: Class
Assignment
One day a teacher
asked her students to list the names of the other students in the room on two
sheets of paper, leaving a space between each name. Then she told them to think
of the nicest thing they could say about each of their classmates and write it
down. It took the remainder of the class period to finish their assignment, and
as the students left the room, each one handed in the papers.
That Saturday, the
teacher wrote down the name of each student on a separate sheet of paper, and
listed what everyone else had said about that individual. On Monday she gave
each student his or her list. Before long, the entire class was smiling.
"Really?" she heard whispered. "I never knew that I meant
anything to anyone!" and, "I didn't know others liked me so
much." were most of the comments.
No one ever
mentioned those papers in class again. She never knew if they discussed them
after class or with their parents, but it didn't matter. The exercise had
accomplished its purpose. The students were happy with themselves and one
another. That group of students moved on.
Several years later,
one of the students was killed in Vietnam and his teacher attended the funeral
of that special student. She had never seen a serviceman in a military coffin
before. He looked so handsome, so mature. The church was packed with his
friends. One by one those who loved him took a last walk by the coffin. The
teacher was the last one to bless the coffin.
As she stood there,
one of the soldiers who acted as pallbearer came up to her. "Were you
Mark's math teacher?" he asked. She nodded: "yes." Then he said:
"Mark talked about you a lot."
After the funeral,
most of Mark's former classmates went together to a luncheon. Mark's mother and
father were there, obviously waiting to speak with his teacher. "We want
to show you something," his father said, taking a wallet out of his
pocket. "They found this on Mark when he was killed. We thought you might
recognize it." Opening the billfold, he carefully removed two worn pieces
of notebook paper that had obviously been taped, folded and refolded many
times.
The teacher knew
without looking that the papers were the ones on which she had listed all the
good things each of Mark's classmates had said about him. "Thank you so
much for doing that," Mark's mother said. "As you can see, Mark
treasured it."
All of Mark's former
classmates started to gather around.
Charlie smiled
rather sheepishly and said, "I still have my list Its in the top drawer of
my desk at home."
Chuck's wife said,
"Chuck asked me to put his in our wedding album."
"I have mine
too," Marilyn said. "It's in my diary."
Then Vicki, another
classmate, reached into her pocketbook, took out her wallet and showed her worn
and frazzled list to the group. "I carry this with me at all times, "
Vicki said and without batting an eyelash, she continued: "I think we all
saved our lists."
That's when the
teacher finally sat down and cried. She cried for Mark and for all his friends
who would never see him again. The density of people in society is so thick
that we forget that life will end one day. And we don't know when that one day
will be. So please, tell the people you love and care for, that they are
special and important. Tell them, before it is too late... and one way to
accomplish this is: give this assignment in a class or group you are
involved in. This could be your extended family, a team or group at work or
play, and within your church. Do it even if you're not the teacher or leader.
You can also share
this idea with all your friends and family. The more people that you share this
with, the better you'll be at reaching out to those you care about. Remember,
you reap what you sow, what you put into the lives of others comes back into
your own.