~~~150 ways to show a
child you care~~~
Notice
them. Smile a lot. Acknowledge them. Learn their names. Seek them out. Remember
their birthday. Ask them about themselves. Look in their eyes when you talk to
them. Listen to them. Play with them. Read aloud together. Giggle together. Be
nice. Say yes a lot. Tell them their feelings are okay. Set boundaries that
keep them safe. Be honest. Be yourself. Listen to their stories. Hug them.
Forget your worries sometimes and concentrate only on them. Notice when they're
acting differently. Present options when they seek your counsel. Play outside
together. Surprise them. Stay with them when they are afraid. Invite them over
for juice. Suggest better behaviors when they act out. Feed them when they are
hungry. Delight in their discoveries. Share their excitement. Send them a
letter or postcard. Follow them when they lead. Notice them when they are
absent. Call them to say hello. Hide surprises for them to find. Give them
space when they need it. Contribute to their collections. Discuss their dreams
and nightmares. Laugh at their jokes. Be relaxed. Kneel, squat or sit so you're
at their eye level. Answer their questions. Tell them how terrific they are.
Create a tradition with them and keep it. Learn what they have to teach. Use
your ears more than your mouth. Make yourself available. Show up at their
concerts, games and events. Find a common interest. Hold hands during a walk.
Apologize when you've done something wrong. Listen to their favorite music with
them. Keep the promises you make. Wave and smile when you part. Display their
artwork in your home. Thank them. Point out what you like about them. Clip
magazine pictures or articles that interest them. Give them lots of
compliments. Catch them doing something right. Encourage win-win solutions.
Give them your undivided attention. Ask for their opinion. Have fun together.
Be curious with them. Introduce them to your friends and family. Tell them how
much you like being with them. Let them solve most of their own problems. Meet
their friends. Meet their parents. Let them tell you how they feel. Help them
become an expert at something. Be excited when you see them. Tell them about
yourself. Let them act their age. Praise more, criticize less. Be consistent.
Admit when you make a mistake. Enjoy your time together. Give them a special
nickname. Marvel at what they can do. Tell them how proud you are of them.
Pamper them. Unwind together. Be happy. Ask them to help you. Support them.
Applaud their successes. Deal with problems and conflicts while they are still
small. Chaperone a dance. Tell them stories in which they are the hero. Believe
in them. Nurture them with good food, good words and good fun. Be flexible.
Delight in their uniqueness. Let them make mistakes. Notice when they grow.
Wave and honk when you drive by them. Give them immediate feedback. Include
them in conversations. Respect them. Join in their adventures. Visit their
schools. Help them learn something new. Be understanding when they have a
difficult day. Give them good choices. Respect the choices they made. Be silly
together. Hang out together. Make time to be with them. Inspire their
creativity. Accept them as they are. Become their advocate. Appreciate their
personality. Talk openly with them. Tolerate their interruptions. Trust them.
Share a secret. Write a chalk message on their sidewalk. Create a safe open
environment. Be available. Cheer their accomplishments. Encourage them to help
others. Tackle new tasks together. Believe what they say. Help them take a
stand and stand with them. Daydream with them Do what they like to do. Make
decisions together. Magnify their magnificence. Build something together.
Encourage them to think big. Celebrate their firsts and lasts, such as first
school day. Go places together. Welcome their suggestions. Visit them when
they're sick. Tape record a message for them. Help them learn from their
mistakes. Be sincere. Introduce them to people of excellence. Tell them what
you expect of them. Give them your phone number. Introduce them to new
experiences. Share a meal together. Talk directly together. Be spontaneous.
Expect their best; don't expect perfection. Empower them to help and be
themselves. Love them no matter what.