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What is needed for one on one ministry?
Colossians 3:12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. 14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.
1 John 1.1 That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked upon, and our hands have handled, concerning the Word of life 2 the life was manifested, and we have seen, and bear witness, and declare to you that eternal life which was with the Father and was manifested to us 3 that which we have seen and heard we declare to you, that you also may have fellowship with us; and truly our fellowship is with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ. 4 And these things we write to you that your joy may be full. 5 This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all. 6 If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin. 8 If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.
· Openness, vulnerability – walk in the light
· Concern and compassion – we must want to know what is going on in the lives of others and show it! If folks aren’t convinced that we really want to know and that we care enough to listen and participate, they won’t share. How often has someone asked you how you were doing and then walked off before even hearing your response? You knew all they wanted to hear was, “fine”.
· Acceptance – Ephesians 1:6 as God accepts us. This is the next step, whatever people say to us, we must accept them. We don’t like their stuff necessarily, but we accept them because we ALL have stuff!
· Care, kindness , tenderheartedness actively shown
· Take time to listen – patience. People have been known to spend $5 a minute just for someone to listen to them without talking. One of the best gifts you can ever give to someone is to listen, truly tuning into body language, tone of voice, things said and un-said. This takes true humility and servanthood because what we have to say takes a back seat to what the other is saying. Often asking meaningful, thought-provoking questions is necessary as well.
· All of these build trust. Without them, people will not open up and be themselves. Without that, true ministry will never take place.
Ephesians 4:15-16 – speak the truth in love – once the right to be heard is earned – like mentioned above, then, and only then, can you do this. Then we can all grow up in Christ – the Anointed One and His anointing. Then the whole body will supply each other what it needs and it will be fit together. Proper working of the body causes growth. We are all then built up in love.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 by having 1-2 close people in your life –
· More work is done
· When one falls, stumbles or is just down the others can pick them up
· Can keep each other warm – physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. (can be a matter of survival)
· They help each other in the battle against the enemy (Satan and powers of darkness) (one can set a thousand to flight, two can set to thousand – exponential). Sometimes one doesn’t realize that they are under attack and the other can help with that.
· There is strength and they are not quickly torn apart
James 5:16 confess your sins to each other and pray for each other and Ephesians 4:32 and Colossians 3:13 Forgive each other – John 21 Jesus tells the disciples that they have the authority to forgive sins – not like God does, but, rather, proclaiming to each other the forgiveness that is already there. We need to hear that often.
Check out a few more of the ‘one anothers’ (in the KJV). They show how to minister to each other. Here are just a few:
· Rom 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another;
· Rom 13:8, 1Jn. 3.11, 23, 4:7, 2 Jn. 1:5 Love one another:
· Rom 14:13 Let us not judge one another any more:
· Rom 15:7 Receive one another, as Christ also received us
· Rom. 15.14 Admonish one another.
· Rom 16:16 Salute one another with a holy kiss.
· 1 Cor. 16:20 2 Cor. 13:12, 1Pet. 5:14 Greet one another with a holy kiss.
· Gal 5:13 By love serve one another.
· Eph 4:2, Col. 3.13 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love; 32 Be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you.
· Col 3:16 teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs
· 1Thes. 4:18 Comfort one another with these words.
· 1Thes. 5:11 Comfort yourselves together, and edify one another
· Heb. 3:13 But exhort one another daily, while it is called Today; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.
· Heb. 10:24 Consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: 25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together…but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as you see the day approaching.
· 1Pet. 1:22 Seeing you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit unto unfeigned love of the brethren, see that you love one another with a pure heart fervently:
1 Cor. 12:15 We all have individual identities, gifts and ministries. We are a unique combination of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual giftings and abilities. Because I am not this or that does not minimize my importance to the body. Each of us is vital. Also, none of us can say to another – I don’t need you. We all need each other. None of us can survive without the other, whether we realize it or not.
We need to be open to the ministry of the gifts of the Spirit listed in 1 Cor. 12, i.e. tongues and interpretation, prophesy, words of wisdom and knowledge, faith, miracles and healing and discerning of spirits. By being open I mean both in giving and receiving the ministry of the gifts. We act as armor bearers for each other, covering blind spots or gaps in our armor. Only the Holy Spirit knows each of our true needs. As we pray over each other and allow the Spirit to move, He can address each need in His way as we make way for Him to do so.